Resource list

Below are resources I have picked from my files for you. I hope you find them useful.

Class outline and notes: Here.

The most helpful thing you can do to thank me is to spread the word about my program. You can do that by:

  1. Email a comment to me that I can use as a review of the class. Tell me if I can use your whole name, your first and initial, or only initials. [email protected]
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  3. Spread the word about Bystander Intervention. Here is a national list of resources:


I write about active bystander intervention, ally tactics, or social and economic justice every Monday on my blog.

The ones about bystander intervention and active ally tactics are found in this category, if you want to read the older posts.

About the classes I can teach:

Verbal Self Defense

For very reserved people:

Social action for people with social anxiety

With friends/relatives/coworkers, facts won’t work

If politics is causing stress

Bullying/microaggression and aggression:

What’s microaggression?

Another version, what is microaggression?


Women’s guide to conflict resolution: The Professional Woman’s Guide to Conflict Management By Elinor Robin, PhD

Tongue Fu!: How to Deflect, Disarm, and Defuse Any Verbal Conflict by Sam Horn


Bystander Intervention

Stepping in with strangers. Physical signs of aggression. Supplemental information:

Physically aggressive people

What does dominant physical posturing look like?

Aggressive body language 

Summary, one page handouts, short articles and blogs:

Bystander basic: Standing against Islamophobia

How to stop hate crime. 

Bill Moyers on hate speech

Should you intervene? 

Multiple teaching tools



How to distracting the target

How to create distance

Distance: (foul language warning!) 

Pacing. This from a TV show. It demonstrates how to get someone out of uncontrolled emotion. The technique is called pacing. You need to match their intensity to get their attention.

These are harder and should not be tried unless you are sure of safety for everyone in the area:

Disrupting hate speech

Intervening with the aggressor

Public Demonstrations and Protest

Personal safety at protests (including phone safety)

Massachusetts law regarding video-making rights and phone security

How and why to video (from Teen Vogue)

Safely taking video, if you witness and ICE arrest

About children at protests

More about children at protests